Like I mentioned in my last post, I wanted to write about Koda Kumi. Well, something that she helped me with was being bold. I talk a lot about being comfortable in your own skin, and trying to make yourself more comfortable. Koda Kumi is a JPop artist, popularly known for writing and singing songs about sex, same-sex relationships, and sexual acts. So basically, imagine if you were an uptight religious person who understood Japanese. And if you listened to Koda Kumi’s songs, you’d probably explode or need to wash out your ears with holy water. For me, I’m not complaining. I LOVE Taboo, Show Girl, Physical Thing, Escalate, Driving, and especially D.D.D. and Juicy. Those are all freaking amazing songs and you guys should check them out if you are interested in JPop because they are fucking amazing. Emphasis on fucking. What? I’m allowed to be crude. The whole point of the post is being bold as fuck, motherfuckers. Sorry, for me, being bold equates to being crude.
But back to the main topic, which is being bold. What Koda illustrates is that you don’t have to be afraid of who you are, and in fact, she encourages that you take risks and try things you normally would be too afraid to do. I’d like to echo this idea in that you should never be afraid to put yourself out there. Yeah, rejection might suck the first 100 times it happens, but when you are finally accepted for just being you, it is completely and fully worth it. That feeling on belonging, it’s great! When I finally was accepted for being the quirky, weird, and at times, highly inappropriate person that I am, I felt a huge sense of relief. Being able to be told you are fine just the way you are (funny because Just the way you are is another Koda song), always helps with your confidence and sense of being.
Boldness obviously comes with a price. I mentioned earlier that you can be rejected even when you put yourself out there. Don’t let that get to you. I personally think being bold, direct, and just upfront about who you are in general, it should be rewarded. Even if you don’t get what you originally were aiming to from it, I’m sure somebody out there was impressed by the fact that you were brave enough to even try. Most people unfortunately are too timid or shy to put themselves out there, and that’s the reason why bold people are always so far ahead of them in life. Being shy is already shooting yourself in the foot. Even if you are likable, talented, or capable, if you are not good at selling that about yourself, you won’t get the recognition that you deserve.
Ultimately, being bold really comes down to how you present yourself. Make sure you are representing yourself truly. Do not try to pretend and be somebody you are not, and convince others you are this fake identity. Be natural and be yourself, and let others make the decision of whether or not they want to be your co-workers, peers, or friends, or whatever it is that you are looking for them to be. Rejection can be tough, but don’t think of it as them not wanting you, even if that is the blatant case. Think of it as you not fitting in, and that you would not have been happy anyways. And keep being bold and unafraid of being you. Eventually, you’ll find the right people. And by right, I mean the people who are right for you.