Multidimensionalism: realization

Something that got me thinking was when I saw one of my classmates making a separate “food” Instagram account, and then telling everyone on FaceBook to follow her on it. It was a lot of an eye-roller, I will admit, but that is not the point of this post. I just want to understand why so many people, especially young people, find the need to create an entirely new Instagram, typically titled (Insert your name here)eats, or something to that effect. It’s honestly so unnecessary. Why can’t you just upload food pictures to your current Instagram? What is so difficult about doing that?

But the answer I am likely to hear is not a pretty one. It is almost always that these people want to be “discovered” as food authorities. They want the likes, the attention, the fame. They want an entirely different account for their food-related lives, in addition to their personal accounts, just to double the chances of them gaining likes and followers, which in turns, is supposed to help with their self-esteem and just making them feel better about themselves. And some people might make the argument that “oh, they don’t post the same photos in their Foodstagrams as they do their normal accounts!” But trust me, they do. Half the time, I get the same photos circulating my feed because they double-dip photos between both accounts. That’s why I came around to this conclusion.

Now, I just don’t understand why we can’t consolidate our photos and interests to one account. Yes, half of the this post is to call out people who are obnoxious enough to do that, but the rest of this post is to question the necessity of it. Are people, we are allowed to have more than one interest. We can express ourselves through these different topics and interests. Compartmentalizing ourselves to just one thing, or separating that one aspect from the rest of our lives, is it really worth compromising the multidimensionality of our personalities? And for those who double-dip their food photos between their two accounts, just why? Does it make you feel better to know that there are more likes on at least one of the same two food posts? And if you want a separate Instagram just to sort through your food posts, why make it public or go out of your way to advertise it to get a following? Those sorts of things, make them private, since you’re probably just using them to reference certain things you’ve eaten or made in the past. Or just be a less obnoxious human being a make a folder on your computer. Being able to see the different occurrences of your life, through your photos, whether it be a selfie, a photo of a sunset, or a picture of a dish you ate, that sort of variety is a lot more worthwhile if it is true to who you are as a person.

For me, I used to struggle with having that sort of variety at all. I came from the opposite issue, where I was obsessed with food and had literally no other interests. That is why I prefer and cherish that variety. Seeing others revert into something that I personally had to overcome, it’s unsettling to say the least. And for them to expect to be rewarded for that kind of behavior, again, it makes me uneasy knowing how vain or shallow certain people are. Now this blog is dedicated to good vibes, so I want to end this post on a positive note. embrace the different sides of your personality and admire them as a whole. Life is too short to be lived in pieces or compartments. Being able to showcase your interests in a great big mosaic, as opposed to smaller, separate ones, is a lot more impressive and makes you a much more beautiful human being. Don’t let stupid things like followers or likes define who you are as a person or what you are worth to the world.

 

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Environment: realization 30

I’m not referring to anything relate to global warming or going green. I’m a Buddhist, not a hippie. That being said, I’m talking about the environment in the same context of Lewin’s Equation, where behavior is the function of an individual and the environment. It basically means that you can control your own behavior, but you cannot control the behavior of the environment around you; in short, there’s no guarantee that you can change the environment. There’s two options in this case: run away or change your outlook. Running away, I think it’s the easier option. It’s also the one that hurts you more in the long run. When you leave something behind, unresolved, you leave extra burdens in your heart, unfinished chapters in your life, and it will come back to haunt you. But when you learn to adapt to the environment, you might be able to enjoy it more.

I’m not saying that running away or giving up on your current environment is something frowned upon. Sometimes, you only have that option; you’ve attempted to adapt, and you failed repeatedly. In those cases, you only can leave and cut your losses. The environment you surround yourself in, it will affect your psyche. For example, I used to be an introvert when I had a person who constantly frustrated me; because of how routinely my energy was being wasted on those one or two individuals, I found myself needing time alone to recharge. But once I cut those people out of my life, I found myself becoming an extrovert. It was because my environment, specifically the people and places I had in my daily routine, changed that I found myself changing as well to adapt.

Adaptability is a completely different topic, but I think it’s worth discussing here, even though I mentioned it in my previous post about panicking. Specifically the pace and methods we use in face of changes in our environment. If you can thrive in an environment where it is high-pressure, high-demand, and intense, then that’s a good environment to stay in. If you cannot, then get the hell out of there if you cannot even swim in there. Do not let yourself stay in an environment where you feel like you are drowning in doubt and fear. Your environment helps you grow as a person, so find the right environment for you.

For me, I am learning that I prefer company who are open-minded, ambitious in their careers, but prefer a routine or a schedule. That creates a sort of environment where I myself can be career-oriented, have norms that do not surprise me, but I can be as weird or awkward as I want and not feel like I am being judged. It helps me feel a need to advance my own career, while I can spend time with the people I love on a constant basis, but ultimately, I can love myself for who I am or become a person who I can love continuously and constantly. Obviously, each person has a different environment that is ideal for them. Some people would rather not have the pressure of finding a career. Others may not love themselves and would rather be surrounded by people who they want to be like. It is ultimately up to the individual what they want. The environment that is suitable changes constantly, to match our personalities, goals, and interests.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Perspective: realization 19

Tell me, do the colors brighten your world like they brighten up mine?

These were the lyrics for Painted Heart by Trass. They’re a music company that produces a lot of songs for online RPG-type games, in case you were wondering. This song just reminds me of how the world can be as beautiful a place as it can be hideous. It all depends on our outlook. I spoke about optimism in a previous post, and how it is important to view the world with a cup-half-full sort of mentality. When you see everything with a happy outlook, life does become more enjoyable. You start to see more of what the world has to offer, as opposed to just all of the flaws or obstacles standing in your way. Perspective is such a unique topic, because it is so subjective and personal.

The idea of the world being painted by different colors, these shades representing different emotions, experiences, and outlooks, it’s a really vivid one for me. Let’s imagine you are a young woman on her way back home. You get lost. A man offers to help guide you. Depending on your outlook, you might start seeing that as one of two ways: he’s a nice man, or he’s a shady man. If we add in that you got lost in a dark alleyway at night, you live in the ghetto, and you might be inebriated, then you will most likely begin thinking he must be shady. If I were to say that you get lost in a meadow in the middle of the day, and the man is charming, kind, and was raised by local farmers, then you’ll probably think his intentions are probably more sincere. I painted two different pictures, using the same base story, but with different adjectives to guide your mind and create your perspective.

This idea can be applied to any situation in real life as well. It all depends on how much you are willing to trust others. Perspective really does come with a combination of knowledge, experienece, and how we were raised. It very much is a nurture-based instinct in that we first see things based on our prior memories. I still remember one of my friends. For the sake of anonymity, I will name her Ellen. Ellen has what we millenials refer to as resting bitch face. Because she had that her entire life, she was made fun of and bullied a lot for it. It caused her to have trust issues, especially with other girls, because she feels like they are gossiping about her behind her back. In that sense, this trauma narrowed Ellen’s perspective, because her being bullied has affected how she acts and trusts girls. It’s not poor Ellen’s fault either. She has a right to be wary, because of the rude remarks made about her face. This example just shows how our perspective is dictated by how we were brought up and raised.

Ellen and I are similar in that we both have narrowed pespectives as a result of being bullied. Trust became a difficult thing to do have because we were afraid of becoming vulnerable around somebody who could potentially exploit us. I know we are both trying to undo that sort of trauma, but it takes time. To live a life with a broader perspective means that we can be happier and truly learn to appreciate the company around us. But narrow perspectives come with being competitive, neurotic, pefectionists, or untrusting, all qualities that would describe myself and Ellen. To be able to have a broader perspective would be great. I really want to live in a life where I can see the world in all of it’s beautiful colors, and for it to just warm my heart with experiences and memories yet to be had. Where I can love everything about this world. To have a perspective like that, I truly can become feather-light.